Today marks what would’ve been my son Reuben Winter’s 32nd birthday, had he not taken his life in 2020. The deep mamae (pain) accompanying suicide bereavement is something many people shy away from, possibly because it’s unfixable. Being the woman I am, I’ve felt compelled to speak to it alongside making space for others to join me (more news below). Reuben was like that too.

Grief is universal, we cannot experience life without it, and I believe aroha (love) is what brings us together – it goes far beyond the division mentality I see playing out upon this beautiful and forgiving earth we inhabit.

Reuben was a phenomenally generous soul, altruistic and with a love that ran loyal and deep – his absence is profoundly missed. May 20th 2026, marks the launch of my podcast rocks in my pockets and is the final day for submissions to a liminal gathering 2.

rocks in my pockets – creativity and suicide bereavement – New Zealand artists speak. Each month, in conversation with a guest artist from New Zealand, we’ll discuss how their art practice was a catalyst for creativity when faced with the intensity of deep grief. rocks in my pockets is about community and co-creating a space for the unspeakable – suicide bereavement in Aotearoa New Zealand. Like a good old-fashioned radio show, we will explore how creativity can be supportive in the expression of grief.

There’s a book deal for the launch of rocks in my pockets. You can find the podcast here https://ionawinter.com/podcast/ or via the Podcast tab on my homepage.

The submissions window for Elixir & Star Press closes today, for the next grief almanac a liminal gathering 2. Soon, I’ll begin the massive task of working my way through submissions. If you’re interested in financially supporting this publication please let me know. Your support will help with printing costs and koha to contributing artists. Repeatedly, I am humbled when hearing from people who believe in the importance of this unique grief resource in Aotearoa New Zealand.

On this day, I remember Reuben in the only way I know how, with unconditional and infinite love. Nui te aroha, and thank you to everyone who supports the work I do, Iona x